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Why anxiety gives you heart palpitations

Why anxiety gives you heart palpitations

written by Christian Heinze

I never used to worry about my health. I guess that’s common for young people.

Until 2016.

In the span of just about a year, my dad passed away and my first son was born. The juxtaposition of sadness and joy was so overwhelming that I don’t know that my body will ever forget. I think my mind has come to terms with it, but I’m not sure my body has, and that’s often the gist of things like PTSD.

So that’s when my health anxiety hit.

For the first time, I thought the first-time thought every new parent does — what if I die on my family? What if I leave them alone, the way I was just left alone?

And health anxiety is something I fight to this day.

But over the years, I’ve found that so many of our weird health symptoms can be explained by anxiety.

And if you have an anxiety disorder, Occam’s Razor suggests Mental Dread is the source of so many problems.

I’m going to start a series of posts on all the ways anxiety can affect our bodies.

The risk is that, by reading these, you might overthink things. But if you’re reading this, you probably already do, so that’s that.

The good news is that the more we understand how anxiety affects our bodies, the less uncertainty, fear and doubt about that strange something-or-other you’re feeling in your this-or-that which might be responsible for an untimely death or disease.

(I’d strongly recommend the discussion board No More Panic for meeting a community of like-minded people who live so much in their minds that it affects their bodies in really weird ways).

So let’s start with heart palpitations.

The Cleveland Clinic has a wonderful primer on why anxiety can cause your heart to race, flutter, pound, skip, all those things.

Basically, if you’re stressing out, your body goes into flight-or-flight and that speeds up your heart to increase blood flow.

According to cardiac electrophysiologist Dr. John Bibawy, “It’s completely normal. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your heart.”

Now of course, if heart palpitations are new to you, by all means, get them checked out.

But if the doctor says your heart is healthy, there’s a good chance those palpitations are anxiety.

The Cleveland Clinic recommends a few things to slow your Chariots of Fire heart: breathing exercises, taking a short and mild walk in nature, and drinking more, since dehydration can cause palpitations.

Healthline notes that anxiety activates your body’s Autonomic Nervous System (ANS), which is responsible for regulating the heart, lungs, digestive system, and various muscles.

As you can imagine — with that much imperial sway over your body — an activated ANS can cause a lot of weird symptoms.

After five years of this song and dance, I’m still getting new symptoms related to my anxiety.

The latest is throat tightening. It’s almost a cliché to say your throat gets tight when you’re anxious, but I had no idea how nuts it can get.

When it first happened to me, I thought I must be having an allergic reaction, so I took 50 mg of benadryl and waited. Nothing. Then I thought, “Maybe my anxiety?” I took my anti-anxiety medicine and boom (or un-boom), the tightening disappeared.

Now I know — throat tightening can be an anxiety thing, and it has to do with muscle tension. (Here are some tips if you struggle with it).

My throat still gets tight when I’m anxious, but at least I now know why.

And that’s the point — once you know a particular symptom is anxiety-based, you’re way ahead of the game.

As time progresses, I’ll post some more anxiety-based symptoms, and hopefully, if you struggle with health anxiety, it will help you on your journey.

[Photo: If you don’t know the movie, you should, no matter your age. But here’s a hint. Yes, anxiety can also cause vertigo.]

July 25, 2021
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Manning: Treasures that must treasure

Manning: Treasures that must treasure

written by Christian Heinze

Brennan Manning, who spent a lifetime trying to rouse self-loathing, weary Christians, writes in a Glimpse of Jesus:


“Jesus perceived that the only way to help people experience life as gracious gift, the only way to help them to prize themselves as grace and treasure, was to treat them as treasure and be gracious to them.

I can be anointed, prayed over, sermonized to, dialogued with, and exposed to God’s unconditional love in books, tracts, and tapes, but this marvelous revelation will fall on ears that do not hear and eyes that do not see, unless some other human being refresh the weariness of my defeated days.

Barring prevenient grace, we humans simply will not accept our life and being as God’s gracious gift unless someone values us.”


Jesus loves and treasures you. And as his disciples, we love and treasure others.

It’s as simple as that, and yet so difficult because we often find it easier to love and treasure others than believe God does the same to us.

Yet he would never die for anything other than something he loved.

As Tim Keller famously wrote: “The gospel is this: We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope.”

Don’t get hung up on the first part. Jesus took care of that, and he’ll take care of you because of the second part.

July 15, 2021
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“Never be embarrassed”

“Never be embarrassed”

written by Christian Heinze

That’s the advice of Dr. Joseph Harper in a wonderful new Washington Post piece, urging men to get help for their mental health problems.

Harper writes of a tragic and familiar phenomenon: “too many men ignore their depression, phobias, or other mental health issues.”

What’s the root cause?

Fear. Embarrassment. Guys want to be Clint Eastwood or Rick from Casablanca. They don’t walk into a therapist’s office right? That’s not in a Fistful of Dollars.

Or maybe smoke and disintegrate like Rick.

I understand. Cynicism is romantic, in its own way. Wasting away in regret.

Disappearing into a room, shutting everyone out, and looking over the bridge in your mind, with a Scotch by your side.

It’s manly, right? Well, men do it. But it’s certainly not strong.

Harper writes:

“I have watched mothers and wives literally drag the men they love into my office. I often struggle with some male patients to pull information about their emotional issues out of them because they are so reluctant to speak. Others simply downplay their problems saying things like, “It’s not really a big deal,” or “My wife is blowing this out of proportion.” Then there are the men who are simply embarrassed and ask, “Nobody will ever know I was here, right?”
Too many men think they are supposed to be strong or macho all the time — even when in pain. For many, it would be unimaginable, intolerable for anyone to know they were battling anxiety, depression, or were bogged down by their emotions.”

The most troubling statistic is that while men might think they’re mentally stronger, the suicide rate for men is much higher than women. Particularly, middle-aged men.

So either we’re a lot more anxious than women, or we’re just not getting the help women are.

Maybe that makes us strong? We need help, but we don’t get it. How’s that strong?

I’ve known so many men who flirt with acknowledging mental health problems, but quickly backtrack as if it suddenly registers in their heads that they might be labeled “scared” or “less than a man.”

It’s the playground, all over again.

I don’t like the phrase “toxic masculinity,” but this is one toxic form of masculinity that lives in many of us. And I’m including myself.

I still don’t like telling people I’m anxious. I’d much prefer “depressed.”

Anxiety implies fear, running away, and boys are taught on the playground that running away is cowardly. That never leaves us, even as men.

But running away from our problems is the cowardly thing.

And guys, we’re not kidding anyone when we fake strength.

If you think you’re hiding your mental health struggles, your family and friends already know. It always comes out.

The Wall Street Journal wrote a few years ago that anxiety often looks different in men from women — it looks like anger, physical tension, substance abuse. Of course it can take other forms — panic attacks, phobias, the whole thing.

But your spouse and close friends already know. You already know. It’s time to let someone who can help know.

Thankfully, more men are starting to share their battles with anxiety.

Here’s a link to some: Stephen Colbert (crippling at times), Big Sean, Ryan Reynolds, Carson Daly, Michael Phelps.

One song that’s meant a lot to me is The National’s “I’m afraid of everyone.” The song isn’t about social anxiety, but instead, dread — the dreadful and alluring desire to flee. Which almost always stems from overwhelming anxiety.

Now Christian men are particularly worried about sharing our anxiety, because we think it might reveal ourselves as faithless, and then (gasp), what will become of our reputation as Christian men?

But that reveals just one thing — We’ve made an idol of a façade. Exactly what Jesus warned about.

We need to grow up. We need to grow up and abandon our fantasy that we’re super-men or super-Christians, impervious to medical conditions.

Jesus himself broke down from mental agony. And he did so, in front of his friends, in Gethsemane.

He didn’t try to hide his distress from them. In fact, he asked if they could stay with him during it. When you think about it, that’s just unbelievable humility. Unbelievable strength.

So please, don’t do what I did for so long, and what I still struggle with — hiding. That’s what we’re doing. Hiding. Running away and hiding.

And that’s supposed to be strong?

Here’s a link to a therapist, or psychiatrist, or support center near you. It’s uncomfortable, but anything worth anything always is.

July 14, 2021
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Jesus, in the storm

Jesus, in the storm

written by Christian Heinze

This isn’t about when he walked on water, but when the wave drowned him.

Tim Keller, writing in Jesus the King (emphasis added).


“Jesus was thrown into the only storm that can actually sink us – the storm of eternal justice, of what we owe for our wrongdoing.

That storm wasn’t calmed – not until it swept him away.

If the sight of Jesus bowing his head into that ultimate storm is burned into the core of your being, you will never say, ‘God, don’t you care?’

And if you know that he did not abandon you in that ultimate storm, what makes you think he would abandon you in the much smaller storms you’re experiencing right now?”

July 6, 2021
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“So tired of being so tired”

“So tired of being so tired”

written by Christian Heinze

Mac Miller, who died tragically young, gave us depressives a gift with “Good News” — this isn’t about the Good News Gospel.

But it’s about a certain kind of depressive day. You know it. Sometimes weeks and months.

Miller:

“Well, so tired of being so tired
Why I gotta build something beautiful just to go set it on fire?
I’m no liar, but sometimes the truth don’t sound like the truth
Maybe ’cause it ain’t, I just love the way it sound when I say it

Yeah, it’s what I do
If you know me, it ain’t anything new
Wake up to the moon, haven’t seen the sun in a while
But I heard that the sky’s still blue, yeah”

And then a little later, oh dear Lord, a cry for the heaven he doesn’t know.

“There’s a whole lot more for me waiting on the other side
I’m always wondering if it feel like summer
I know maybe I’m too late, I could make it there some other time
I’ll finally discover
That there’s a whole lot more for me waiting
That there’s a whole lot more for me waiting
I know maybe I’m too late, I could make it there some other time
Then I’ll finally discover
That it ain’t that bad
Ain’t so bad
Well, it ain’t that bad”

While we’re at it, in the familiar and oddly comforting weight of a song that makes us feel less alone on certain days, here’s one of my favorite passages from The Valley of Vision that gives an answer.

Maybe it won’t make us feel better, but the truth of it promises that, one day, our rest and everything else good and beautiful will be complete.

“May the truth that is in him

illuminate in me all that is dark,

establish in me all that is wavering,

comfort in me all that is wretched,

accomplish in me all that is of thy goodness,

and glorify in me the name of Jesus.

I pass through the vale of tears

but bless thee for the opening gate of glory at its end.

Enable me to realize as mine the better,

heavenly country.

Prepare me for every part of my pilgrimage.

Uphold my steps by thy Word.

Let no iniquity dominate me.

Teach me that Christ cannot be the way

if I am the end,

that he cannot be Redeemer

if I am my own saviour,

that there can be no true union with him

while the creature has my heart,

that faith accepts him as Redeemer and Lord

or not at all.”

July 4, 2021
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Do you have “nighttime anxiety?”

Do you have “nighttime anxiety?”

written by Christian Heinze

Lately, I’ve been waking up in the middle of the night with my “heart racing.” (Oh, that famous symptom of everything. A symptom for all seasons).

It’s happened throughout my life, but usually only after nightmares. But recently, it’s come in the absence of dreams.

Of course, my anxiety immediately thought HEART ATTACK! or even something more benign like sleep apnea, which can provoke similar experiences.

But for me, and possibly you, Occam’s Razor always leads me back to anxiety.

So I wondered: Can anxiety do this?

And since anxiety is a bit like Shohei Ohtani, why yes of course it can.

If you’re going through a particularly anxious time, it’s quite normal to wake up, breathless and panicking, in the absence of frightening dreams.

Medical News Today has a helpful write-up on nighttime anxiety:


Nighttime anxiety is not a special class of anxiety. People become anxious at night for the same reasons they do during the day. However, the following factors may make anxiety more noticeable at night:

  • Fewer distractions at night mean a person is more likely to think about the things that make them anxious.
  • Consuming caffeine during the day can make a person jittery and anxious and less able to sleep during the night.
  • Nightmares.
  • Fear about the coming day.
  • Anxiety about insomnia, particularly if a person worries about the effects of their sleep deprivation the next day.
  • Health anxiety, since people might notice aches and pains more when they are falling asleep.

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Now….if you’re waking up, gasping for air, check with your doctor because Healthline notes that there could be explanations other than anxiety: postnasal drip, hypnagogic jerk, obstructive sleep apnea, pulmonary edema, acid reflux, heart failure, and anxiety.

The good thing is that anxiety is the least physically destructive (in the short term) of those conditions.

The bad news is that your anxiety will probably make you worry about heart failure or edema when you wake up, gasping.

So definitely get it checked out with a doctor.

But waking up breathless from anxiety is definitely a thing.

And of course, for many of us, our anxiety escalates at night.

If only because it reminds us of the coming day, or the day that has just left. Or all the things the day obscured and that we can no longer ignore.

Some of us pray and it helps. Some of us read our favorite verses and it helps. Some of us pop a sleeping pill and it helps. I’ve done all three.

Suffering at night is its unique kind of hell.

King David frequently wrote of wasting away on his bed, at night.

Jesus endured Gethsemane at night.

When you’re a teenager or in college, staying up into the wee hours is often a sign of a good time.

But when you’re a little older, it’s a restless unease, or else an 8 hour rumination on how trapped you feel in life: “How did I go through what I just did yesterday, and how can I handle what I’m supposed to do, tomorrow?”

The way forward is holistic.

Talk to your doctor about something for anxiety or sleep, talk to a therapist, talk to Jesus, and somewhere in all that talking, I hope the voices at night will quiet, and you can sleep again.

[Painting: Winter Night in the Mountains, Sohlberg (1914)]

July 3, 2021
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STUDY: Laughing gas shows promise as depression treatment

STUDY: Laughing gas shows promise as depression treatment

written by Christian Heinze

NBC News has a good report on a small, new phase 2 clinical study that suggests laughing gas (nitrous oxide) might provide antidepressive benefits for folks who have treatment-resistant depression.

As you might know, ketamine has proven a ground-breaking new treatment for depression by blocking N-methyl-D-asparate receptors in the brain, as opposed to the more traditional serotonin receptors.

Well, researchers suggest laughing gas works via a similar mechanism, and perhaps that’s behind the benefits for treatment-resistant sufferers.

You can read more here, and remember it’s a small study, it’s phase 2 and there’s a lot of work to be done.

Also, this doesn’t, by any means, suggest that traditional SSRIs don’t work.

For some, they work spectacularly well. For others, not. And that’s because we all have different brains and brains are complicated.

June 21, 2021
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Study suggests surprising relationship between serotonin transporters and depression

Study suggests surprising relationship between serotonin transporters and depression

written by Christian Heinze

The two simple background facts for this interesting, new study.

First, there’s a neurotransmitter in the brain called serotonin. It’s often called the “happy chemical” because it helps stabilize our mood and feelings of well-being and it impacts the whole body.

You’ve heard it before — not enough serotonin (or serotonin imbalance) and you’re set up for depression and anxiety. Thus, we get SSRI antidepressants that seek to increase or rebalance serotonin levels in the brain.

Second, serotonin has a transporter protein, 5-HTT, and it “pumps serotonin away from the cerebral neuron synapases.”

So theoretically, the higher your levels of 5-HTT, the lower your levels of serotonin, because more serotonin is getting pumped away, right?

Now here’s where it gets strange.

Studies have shown that people with depression actually have lower levels of 5-HTT (the transporter) which doesn’t make immediate sense, at all, because that would suggest depressed people have more serotonin in the brain. Or at least, not as much serotonin getting pumped away by 5-HTT.

Well, a brand new study published in Translational Psychiatry suggests, yes, we need to think about rethinking how the serotonin system works in depression.

Researchers treated 17 patients with depression and found that 13 had significant improvement. Great.

Now here’s the interesting thing — after treatment, their levels of 5-HTT averaged about 10% higher than the healthy control group.

In other words, depression treatment raised the levels of the transporter (5-HTT) that pumps serotonin away from the brain!

What does it mean, though?

Researcher Dr. Johan Lundberg explained in the news release:

“One possible interpretation is that the serotonin system doesn’t cause depression but is part of the brain’s defence mechanism for protecting itself against depression.

One might hypothesize, for example, that the level of 5-HTT drops when an individual is subjected to stress, such as during a depressive state, and that the level rises or normalises when this stress goes away.

It’s important to point out, however, that even if these ideas are raised by our study, its design doesn’t allow us to draw any conclusions about why levels of 5-HTT change.”

https://eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2021-05/ki-sti050621.php

This is just another important piece of the depression puzzle, and shows how inscrutable a medical condition it really is. Any brain condition is.

And that’s why it’s so hard to find an antidepressant that brings immediate relief, because everyone is different.

I recently wrote about a wonderful new study, though, that suggests we’re getting closer to finding the right Rx on the very first try.

Researchers at the Indiana University School of Medicine developed a blood test, “composed of RNA biomarkers, that can distinguish how severe a patient’s depression is, their risk of severe depression in the future and their risk of future bipolar disorder, or manic-depressive illness.”

Oh and, crucially, the test then gives doctors the tools to pick the Rx that would work best for you. Without theoretically having to try every singe one on the shelf.

I do think that we’re getting closer to the point where we can go to Quest or LabCorp, get our blood drawn, and then get a great Rx recommendation within a week.

That, of course, would be wonderful and would save so, so many lives.

May 11, 2021
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God is great, yes. Remember, he is good

God is great, yes. Remember, he is good

written by Christian Heinze

From The Valley of Vision:


“May I always combine thy majesty

with thy mercy,

and connect thy goodness

with thy greatness.

Then shall my heart always rejoice

in praises to thee.”

May 7, 2021
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Is your kindergartner depressed?

Is your kindergartner depressed?

written by Christian Heinze

“This new generation whines, whines, whines,” I can just hear Christians complain.

Well, we dismiss the warning signals at our own peril.

Far worse, at our precious children’s peril.

The New York Times has a terrific read on a rare but real phenomenon — depression among children, ages 3-7.

It’s often a precursor to serious depression later on in life, and I remember my first bout of nihilistic thought around the age of 4-5. And by that I mean, I couldn’t imagine living the rest of my life and just wanted to get it over with. This, despite two loving parents.

Of course, I didn’t share those persistent, nihilistic thoughts with anyone, and of course most children who have them don’t. They barely understand them. But that doesn’t mean they’re not feeling them.

We can already hear the skeptics, right? “You just want to line the pockets of big pharma by giving these kids antidepressants.”

No, child psychiatrists certainly don’t want that for children as young as these.

Instead, there are two things they suggest we do.

First, look out for signs that your child is seriously depressed.

The NY Times:


“When young children are depressed, Dr. Kovacs said, it’s not unusual for “the primary mood to be irritability, not sadness — it comes across as being very cranky.” 

The best way for parents to recognize depression in young children is not so much by what a child says as by what the child does — or stops doing. Look for “significant changes in functioning,” Dr. Kovacs said, “if a child stops playing with favorite things, stops responding to what he used to respond to.”

This might mean a child loses interest in the toys or games or jokes or rituals that used to be reliably fun or entertaining, or doesn’t seem interested in the usual back and forth of family life.

The best way for parents to recognize depression in young children is not so much by what a child says as by what the child does — or stops doing. Look for “significant changes in functioning,” Dr. Kovacs said, “if a child stops playing with favorite things, stops responding to what he used to respond to.”

This might mean a child loses interest in the toys or games or jokes or rituals that used to be reliably fun or entertaining, or doesn’t seem interested in the usual back and forth of family life.”


So what’s a concerned parent to do?

First, talk to your pediatrician. They should know about local resources for helping this kind of thing.

Second, get treatment.

It’s often called PCIT (“Parent-Child Interaction Therapy“) and helps parents learn how to praise their child in ways that bolster their feelings of self-worth, because remember self-loathing is a warning sign of depression in a child.

Third, Christians, we really need to to understand that children are children.

If we tell them they’re accepted by Christ and beloved, what does that really mean to a child who believes they’re not even accepted and loved by anyone?

It’s up to us to model Christ’s love while we tell them about his love. Otherwise, it’s counterproductive.

And remember that a five year old is a five year old!

Their brains aren’t really great yet at even processing Christianity or 99% of the Bible stories most Christian parents tell them. Of if they do, they get the wrong thing from them because these are still kids who think monsters live under the bed. On no evidence, and against our assurances.

I can tell you, without a doubt, that those Bible stories were probably the most disturbing thing swirling around in my four year old brain, and it’s remarkable that in a Christian culture where movies must be “nice, sweet, and gentle” (vomit) even for sixteen year olds, we nevertheless regale kindergartners in Sunday school with stories about God drowning everyone in the world in the flood.

The disconnect is astonishing.

Think about it this way.

When Jesus told the kids to come chat with him, do you think he told them the story of the Flood? Or about Jacob tricking Esau out of his birthright? Or about Adam and Eve? Or about Samson.

I’d guess he told them something very simple and deeply meaningful, reassuring and loving for a five year old — something that proved that he brought nothing but good news to even the smallest among us.

However, remember, that just as in adult depression, childhood depression can be impervious to a message, and if we notice these depressive behaviors in our very young kids, we should talk to our pediatrician, and we should get help and we should also be the help, and run and play with them, and talk with them, and encourage them to name their emotions, and fill their hearts with the fact — the utterly Biblical fact — that they are beyond special, loved without condition, by both us and Jesus.

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May 7, 2021
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